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Transfeminine Nonbinary Actor Alex Thomas-Smith Celebrates Joyful Queer Love in London Wedding
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Transfeminine, nonbinary actor Alex Thomas-Smith has married their partner, actor Ciaran Thomas-Smith, marking a significant moment not only in their personal lives but also for the visibility of queer and trans love in the public sphere. The ceremony, held at the iconic Hackney Town Hall in London, was attended by close friends and family, many from the arts community, and underscored the importance of LGBTQ+ representation in life’s most meaningful moments .
Alex and Ciaran’s relationship began five years ago, forged during the COVID-19 lockdown when Alex, living in Berlin, returned to the UK for Christmas. Their connection was immediate and enduring; as Alex shared in an interview, “From the moment we met it was instant… five years later and we have lived with each other ever since” .
The couple’s wedding day was filled with emotion and meaningful gestures. One particularly touching moment came when their two-year-old nephew carried the rings—prompting Alex to tears. Alex described the ceremony as “the best day of my life,” noting that although they are accustomed to performing on stage, the wedding was an occasion for genuine vulnerability and authenticity . The couple made their entrance to the Royal Philharmonic Orchestra’s rendition of Aretha Franklin’s “I Say a Little Prayer,” a song chosen for its personal significance and emotional resonance .
After the ceremony, guests gathered for an intimate dinner at The Pig & Butcher in Islington, where speeches celebrated the couple’s love and the journey they have shared.
A central theme of the celebration was the rejection of rigid gender norms and expectations often imposed on LGBTQ+ couples. Alex addressed the anticipation from others about wedding attire and traditional roles, sharing, “People kept telling me they couldn’t wait to see the dress… I actually proposed to him, and I didn’t wear a dress. People like to put you into boxes, especially when it comes to ‘bride and groom,’ but for us, that was so not important. We just wanted to be happy” .
This approach not only reflects Alex and Ciaran’s personal values but also serves as an example for other LGBTQ+ couples navigating similar pressures. Their choice to focus on authenticity and mutual joy over tradition resonates broadly within the queer and transgender communities, where representation of diverse relationships continues to be a vital issue.
For Alex, marriage as a transfeminine, nonbinary person carries special significance. Reflecting on their wedding day, Alex said, “On my wedding day, I imagined my younger self sitting in the room, watching and realising that what once felt impossible was not only possible, but real. Queer and trans love is not just valid, it’s joyful, enduring, and worth celebrating” .
Alex’s perspective highlights the transformative power of visibility for LGBTQ+ people, especially those who are transgender or nonbinary. Their wedding, shared publicly, offers not only hope but a celebration of love that transcends societal boundaries and encourages others to embrace their identities with pride.
The newlyweds have expressed hopes for the future, including building a home together and possibly starting a family. Alex shared, “I would have a baby tomorrow if we could! He isn’t quite there yet, which is completely understandable… but building a home together is the most important thing to me” .
Their relationship is characterized by mutual respect and unconditional love. As Alex described, “Truly, I think that Ciaran loves me for exactly who I am… He would always tell me how great I looked and how much he loved me. The way he explains it is: ‘I just love you. I don’t care who you are, there’s nothing you could be that would stop me loving who you are.’ And to me, that’s what love is all about” .
The wedding of Alex Thomas-Smith and Ciaran Thomas-Smith is not only a personal milestone but a public affirmation of queer and trans joy. Their story contributes to a growing tapestry of LGBTQ+ narratives that challenge stereotypes, celebrate diverse identities, and inspire others to see love as an enduring force for progress.
In a year where visibility and acceptance for transgender and nonbinary people remain pressing issues globally, events like this wedding serve as beacons of hope, illustrating the possibility and beauty of lives lived authentically and in celebration of love.
As the LGBTQ+ community continues to advocate for recognition, equality, and representation, moments such as Alex and Ciaran’s wedding remind everyone that queer and trans love is not only valid—it is profoundly joyful.
